The Joys of Life


Thoughts of a 29 Week mom to be (I’ve given birth since then). I love to be a glowing pregnant woman creating life and bonding with my child. At this stage of my pregnancy I have the typical symptoms. Swollen hands and feet, sleepless nights, food adversions, endless trips to the restroom and so on. But I would not change this for the world.  It is always exciting to learn that a new addition to the family is on the way. But let’s also think about the changes that will occur as well. Sometimes adjustments can be hard but pre planning ahead of time can help make the transition easier. 

We have a 6 year old son who prayed every night for as long as I can remember for a sibling.  He was so discouraged each day when he thought about not having a brother or sister to play with. After many discussions about being patient he finally had some what of an understanding. We are so thankful to have had all our time dedicated to him for the past 6 years because we were able to see him grow into this Pokemon loving kiddo who is very literal. We enjoyed every minute of him being an only child until this year. Now as parents we are thinking about teaching him how to love his sister and also being willing to share our attention with her. Coming from a similar situation I understand that sometimes sharing time with others can be tough. I myself have 6 siblings who are all older than me. The youngest of the 6 is 16 years older than me.  So essentially by the time they hit 18 and older I was at home growing up in a household where I was the only child. Not saying I don’t have a relationship with my siblings but I grew up not having to share my time with my parents.  So I understand the mere fact that my son is attention seeking when others are around. 


The important or key factors I feel can benefit my son (or anyone) would be:

1. Always have set aside time for he and I. Creating an reoccurring outing for us will help him during the adjustment when his sister arrives. 

2.  Communication

3.  Including him in as many activities with the baby as possible. 

4.  Helping the two of them build a bond like no other. 

5. Always showing him love and attention. This way he can spread that love to his sister. 

6. Sharing stories about him at each stage we reach with his sister. Letting him know what he did as a newborn. 

Creating moments and time stamps for him it’s very important. All children want to know is that they are loved and important. This will also come into play once they start growing up and being in certain social situations. Trying to make sure that he understands that time can be shared between him and his siblings will show him how to treat other. This is a life lesson in its own and we are glad that this has been thought out and we are prepared. Being an only child can sometimes hinder our ability to communicate with others. We want to make sure that our son is never left out and always a part of everything. Kids show signs of wanting attention in so many ways that are not always bad. When people are gloating about the new baby I tend to see him dancing around and asking 50 questions about nothing. So that’s when I take my time and answer a few of his questions making sure that he knows he is still heard.

Baby boy we love you and you will always have our attention. 

Be Still and Listen

This will be short and sweet today. 

Take a moment and be still….

What this means is take time out of your hustle to be creative and let your gift shine through. You may not feel like a moment of silence is neccessarily the right move. But how can we gauge what the right move is if we are always occupied with our daily grind. Appreciate the time you have here and be thankful for your reflection time. 

Listen to your body when it speaks. Look for signs that point you in the direction that lead you to fulfilling your goals. A wise man doesn’t become wise in the wake of traffic. Take a moment to reflect and release some of your stressors. 
😘✌🏽❤️TK

Celebrate the Little things

Don’t wait until something big happens in your life to celebrate! Life is a whirlwind of situations that you may not be comfortable with.  There may be times in your life where you may not have full control.  When you feel like you want to give up…don’t!  Take a moment to find a way to stay true to who you are and celebrate the small things.  When life gives you lemons do not be afraid to make a lemon meringue pie!  Do not settle for what you think you are capable because you are more than the basic glass of lemonade.

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In life the small things should be celebrated as they are important milestones just as big as any other. And life every day should be appreciated along with the small things that make us happy. Creating those small moments of happiness can impact your life on a whole other level. This can be related to small accomplishments at work or in your life. 

Celebrate early and often. Think about the number of times a student in your classroom, a coworker, family member or anyone close to you has celebrated the smallest thing but you looked at them as if they were overreacting. If someone came to me and asked me what the last thing that I celebrated was they would probably laugh because it was so small. But in my mind what is considered small?

Life is too short for you not to celebrate the small things. You are more than negativity and need moments of positivity.  Also remember that you may not find positivity from others and that is also not a healthy way to live.  Do not live through others reactions because it may not be what you expect.  Your happiness is defined by YOU and no one else. Enjoy life to the fullest and make sure that others around you know that it’s OK to celebrate life with you.

TK

Educating Minds Like They Are Golden…

Lessons in life are important to go through.  How do you think your life would be if you did not go through certain situations?  Everything in my life has been a lesson that I have learned from. Continue Reading

Every Little Step I take…..

My journey is not the same as yours. You see, my eyes don’t show me where to go and who to love…my faith and heart does. I don’t pay attention to trends and sparkles in order to think in relevant….I am relevant. I am not amused by many and your life didn’t wake me up this morning HIS 🙏🏽 did.
My journey is not the same as yours. I am undeniably me, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a mentor, an educator, an observer and much more.
My journey is not yours so please stay out of my traffic lane before you are run over by my goals and aspirations. 🚗

There is so much that people go through in a day. Have you ever taken time out to ask someone how they are feeling or even taken time to pause and LISTEN? Life takes us on a roller coaster of emotions, some of us get through the ride just fine and others throw up lunch. But are you aware of those who actually need you to listen sometimes? We can go through life thinking that we are reciprocating what we feel we give others. But sometimes that is not the case.

While your journey is not one that I may be able to handle I must ensure that I am equipped to handle it. How can one be equipped to handle someone else’s journey when the journey is not made for you? We have been given choices, issues, and people to deal with in our lives. We have to think about how to get stuff paid, what to wear, who to be with, how to kids in this society and much more. We all have our own journey and there are some who listen and there are some who don’t. I feel like sometimes people are overwhelmed with life and what issues are being brought to them. And I in no way shape or form I’m saying that I can handle the next person’s issues. But I do tend to think about walking in other people shoes and how I would handle certain situations. Being who I am I try to handle things and be strong, not cry, and just fix it! But again, my journey is not the same as others. I may not be able to handle someone being in the hospital, or being you’ve acted, or being flooded out of my home, or injustices that are in 2017. But how do we help those who do have these issues feel like everything will be OK?


Emotionally being strong enough to handle life is the struggle sometimes. It can be a struggle because life can take you places that you were not prepared to go. If something in your life takes you to a place where emotionally you are broken, just remember that you are not alone. If your faith is strong and you trust that prayer and a support system can get you through you will make it. I may not tell everyone my struggles every day, every moment, but don’t think for one minute I don’t struggle. There are people in this world who wear the world on their shoulders. They struggle with other peoples problems because they want to fix it. Those people need to understand that everything is not fixable. 


But being there for the people who need it is the most important thing. Always be a listening ear for those who need it. Sometimes people need a moment to get things off their chest and to put it in the atmosphere for them to get over it. Others want to just talk and get the opinions of others.  For those who feel like no one is listening here’s my advice to you:

  1. Never give up.
  2. If you feel like talking to someone then by all means communicate with someone. If that means you writing everything out on the piece of paper just to get it out, then do that.
  3. Try not to sit and dwell on the negative’s. I know that may be hard to do because sometimes in life there are nothing but negative things happening. But I found that if you get the negatives out with her in conversation or on paper you tend to feel like the load is a little lighter.
  4. Create a happy routine. A routine of things that will bring a smile to your face and take you out of the negativity. 


Here is my advice to those people who are always a listening ear:

  1. Don’t be discouraged when others don’t take the time out to be your listening ear.
  2. Make sure that you let go of other peoples problems as they are expressing them to you.
  3. Give your advice to people and always think outside of the box. Do not bias us.
  4. Take time out to process what you heard and then give advice.

In life there are those people who tend to bring their problems to you but never sit down and listen to the problems of other people. This in fact is not fair. But it is life. Always make sure that if you are struggling with an issue and you feel like no one wants to listen write it down and get it out. Pray about it. Do not harbor your problems and let them eat away at you. Sometimes people say they care but don’t care to listen to your problems ….but don’t take that to heart. It’s not to say that they don’t care about you that’s just in their nature. Think of it as a journey, not everyone drives the same car and listens to the same music but we do have a journey and an end destination. So my journey may not be the same as yours. I tend to listen, give advice, harbor the feeling during that conversation and I try to think of ways to fix it. Not everyone is like that. So for me I chose to talk about a journey because I feel like in life we are dealt different avenues to drive on but in our minds the maps are different.

TKnows: Effectively Leading the Masses

The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly. —Jim Rohn

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Education: How I Survived as An Educator- Part I

Well, where do I begin? How did I get here?

How did I survive as a teacher.  By no means is this the end all be all for every person to follow and learn from.  This has just been my experience that helped me as an educator.  I am sharing my journey and tips that helped me become a well versed educator.  I have learned so much over the years and my goal is to share this information with the masses.  I started off using handouts and lectures to flipping my classroom and integrating technology in the classroom making learning fun.  But to understand the now you all have to be introduced to my past.  I started off unsure and very green!!! LOL!!!  I did not take into consideration that all learners are different, students are a reflections of what is spoken into them and how connected I would become.  I have taught in low, average and above average campuses.  GO and grab a snack because this series of post will be and interesting course of events.  xoxo TK Continue Reading

Lifestyle: Take Time Out to Smell the Roses.

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. Dale Carnegie
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Some times you have to stop and smell the roses.  One should not get so caught up in everyday life to the point where we miss out.  One can miss out on the smallest of things due to stress and other daily obstacles. Continue Reading